sorry to say but this is a skill issue
stanford coursework and social life is entirely optional and self selective ie the group in which you find yourself at the end is reflective of your own choices and biases
like in all places and eras, go find the people you belong with
I love SF but hated Stanford. deeply incurious, entitled, conformist place
1) Nobody leaves campus. Caltrained to SF once every 1-2 mos, which was unusual hard to get ppl to join. Kids are totally disconnected from / uninterested in the real world.
2) Stanford ships incoming freshmen 3 books over the summer and organizes a panel of the authors your first week on campus. Still remember turning to my dormmate to ask what they thought. Reply: āYou actually read the books?ā
3) Reflexive disrespect for humanities. Was told regularly āWhy would you study IR?ā and āEveryone smart enough to study CS does.ā My freshman dorm was 75% eng. Eng is cool but so is interdisciplinarity.
4) Meanwhile humanities grade-inflate like crazy to retain anyone at all. Profs gave me 0 critical comments on my essays until I did an Oxford tutorial abroad and realized how little I knew. Nobody does readings or psets, ppl believe the focus is networking not learning.
5) Thereās just a sense of Iām special so donāt have to try. New grads are too good to have non-prestigious job titles. Founding is all status no substance ā kid raises $1m for a startup he knows is fake and starts waving around a Brex to buy ppl shots.
I donāt feel like I became a person until I left junior year