I wrote a Muslim children's book about honesty, taqwa and loving Allah. 🤍 Perfect for the child who takes things and lies about it, and the parent who has tried everything to stop it. Link in my bio.

Everyday, Woman, marriage, and polygyny. Ibn Jawazi said, "when a person's mind becomes entirely consumed by a single earthly desire, whether it is wealth, status, or women, it blinds them from their ultimate purpose: the refinement of the soul for the sake of Allah.

People get married and live happily with their spouses. People have respectful, kind, and supportive spouses. Do not allow bad experiences you've seen or heard to twist your thinking about marriage. Ask Allah for a good marriage and work towards having one. Put negativity away.

we took so long growing from age 10 to 20 but the speed at which we are moving to 30 is alarming😭

I hope you see this because I don't think the advice you've been given addresses the real problem. "Protect his ego." "Make him feel like he's in charge." "Give him a title." "Let him run it." "Call elders." These may sound wise, but they're all trying to manage the symptoms while ignoring the disease. From what you've shared, the issue isn't your business. It isn't even his failed business. The issue is control. When he had money, he didn't want you to work because he believed he had everything under control. You insisted, and Alhamdulillah you did. When his business began to fail, the income from the very work he once opposed became part of what sustained your family. You helped pay debts and even invested in reviving his business. Now that his business has collapsed, he wants control of yours and is threatening divorce if you refuse. That should make anyone pause. Ask yourself two questions: •What happens if your business also fails under his management? •What would have happened to your family if you had listened to him years ago and never worked? The advice you've received focuses on protecting his ego. I think the focus should be on protecting his heart. Your husband doesn't need more control. He needs to return to Allah. He needs to sit with the reality that he is not the provider, Allah is. He is not in control, Allah is. The business that flourished was by Allah. The business that failed was by Allah's decree. The business you now have is by Allah's grace. Until he truly accepts that, no amount of titles, symbolic leadership, or handing over your business will fix what is happening inside him. If the need to control isn't addressed, today it's your business. Tomorrow it may be something else. Your husband may be carrying deep disappointment, shame, and the pain of losing what he built. That deserves compassion. But pain does not justify coercion, and hardship does not give anyone the right to threaten their spouse into giving up what belongs to them. Bad things happen every day. Your husband won’t be the first or the last to experience financial loss. What matters is how a person responds after the fall. That response often determines whether the hardship becomes a lesson or the beginning of a greater tragedy. My advice would be this: If you truly want to save your marriage, the harder but healthier path is for your husband to come to terms with what has happened, recognize that provision is from Allah alone, and rebuild from that place of humility. Rebuilding his relationship with his Creator, and rediscovering his purpose we make him see he can be the MAN that Allah has made him without needing to control you or your finances. And to you, your marriage and your livelihood are not mutually exclusive. Don't mistake sacrificing your security for saving your marriage. Those are not the same thing. May Allah soften both your hearts, remove pride where it exists, replace fear with tawakkul, and guide your family to what is best. Āmīn.

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I genuinely wish you lot would talk about the climate crisis, Palestine, Sudan, Congo, the Epstein Files, racism, pedophilia, how women’s rights are regressing, how animals are becoming extinct, and so much more, than the niqab and hijab.

Can't even focus at work cuz all I'm thinking about is Portugal's game

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Every day, there’s another reminder that many of the fears women carry don’t come from nowhere.

saw this one du’a on tiktok that made me bawled my eyes out. it says, "Ya Allah, make it happen in such an impossible way that I know it could only be from You. You are Al-Fattah, The Opener, so open doors for me that no one can shut. You are Ar-Razzaq,

nothing hurts more than finding yourself up at 2 & 3 in the morning, staring at the ceiling, wondering what went wrong, what you could’ve done better to avoid ending up here.

the audacity to believe in yourself with no physical evidence is literally the entire cheat code

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I'm scared. May Allah be with us, and may tomorrow not be Ronaldo's last World Cup game. I'm already nervous after hearing his words, knowing he confirmed this will be his last. ☹️

Then there’s me. Raised by Enid Blyton.

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Mistreating people then avoiding communication is not protecting your peace, it's avoiding accountability.

They told me: No one is coming to save you but they forgot My Allah Ta’ala has never once left me to drown.

one of best feelings in the world is someone doing things for you without you asking. that is peak love. a friend picking something up for you from their travels. receiving flowers randomly. someone cooking for you. someone planning elaborate dates years into the relationship.

If Allah Ta’ala wants it for you, it will be yours. Don't stress out so much. Keep praying and trust Allah.