Why isn't anyone talking about the loss of food vouchers in yhe holiday for parents who receive #freeschoolmeals? #col #parenting #foodpoverty

I asked @leicspolice via a SAR for details of a crime that happened to me in 1987. They had no record of this crime. Nothing. Why? This was a crime of sexual violence, is that why it was not considered important to record? #sexualviolence #crime #police

One of the most frustrating things I’ve discovered since becoming a campaigner is how little understanding there still is around child development, brain development, and the importance of children growing up in safe, sensible, supportive environments. There is so much criticism aimed at children and their behaviour. But far too often, that criticism is pointed in the wrong direction. When children are struggling, acting out, or behaving in ways adults find difficult, we need to be asking: what is happening around them? What are they being exposed to? What support are they missing? What responsibilities have the adults, politicians, authorities, and systems failed to meet? Because from where I’m sitting, children are being failed, and then blamed for the consequences. Of course, I believe poor behaviour from a child must be dealt with, managed, and come with consequences. But it should also be about understanding and addressing the root cause of that child’s behaviour, so we can actually help children do better in the future and avoid repeated patterns of poor behaviour. Given the world we live in today, with children overexposed to so much, adults have to accept some responsibility. I hear adults complain all the time about children “misbehaving.” What I don’t hear nearly enough is adults saying: “What can we do better to help children feel safe, supported, and able to behave better?” I take my responsibilities as an adult seriously. Knowing what I know, I cannot stay quiet about this. Children need guidance, protection, patience, boundaries, and understanding - not constant criticism from the very adults who should be helping them. Do better, people.

I put a request into the police for records of a crime that happened to me in 1987. They came back with nothing. There are no records of the crime. I thought recording crime was very important for future safety of victims. Obviously not! #police #crime #1987

RT @CommissionerDA: I spoke to @LBCNews today about the importance of holding perps to account for domestic abuse related suicides followin…

Abusers don’t co-parent, they counter-parent. Even worse, they target the very thing that is most precious to you, your bond with your child. These are some of the ways they do it: They speak negatively about you to shape how your child sees you. They promise a “better” life or new family to pull your child closer to them. They involve your child in custody issues and make them feel responsible for conflict. They create coalitions by positioning your child on their side. They buy affection through gifts, trips, and rewards to compete with your bond. They use emotional blackmail by threatening to say harmful things about you. They make threats to force agreement on parenting decisions that suit them. They encourage secrecy and ask your child to keep things from you. They show disapproval when your child expresses positive feelings about you. They distort memories and rewrite events to influence how your child understands you. They undermine you by ignoring your boundaries or rewarding your child for going against you. Out of everything an abuser does, this is the cruelest, and it cuts the deepest. There is a particular kind of pain in watching someone interfere with your bond with your child, using them as a tool for control and revenge, and deeply harming them and you in the process. It is violating, it is relentless, and it goes against every instinct you have as a parent to protect, nurture, and stay connected. It forces you to stand in the middle of something you never should have had to fight for, your place in your child’s life. I have found healing around what was done to me, and I have rebuilt parts of myself I once lost, but I will always carry a deep and lasting outrage for what he chose to do, and continues to do, to my child. #CoerciveControl #PostSeparationAbuse

The Naked Bike Ride is due to arrive in the UK very soon. I’ve spent the past year challenging this event because my safeguarding concerns have not been taken seriously by the organisers, the City Police, MET Police or by the Mayor of London, despite these issues being raised repeatedly. If this prompts more people to look into the concerns I’ve highlighted and support my petition, it only strengthens the call for accountability. Thank you to everyone who has stood with me. I see you ->>> change.org/p/the-naked-bike-… @MayorofLondon @CityPolice @metpoliceuk

My #therapist agreed with me when I spoke about the sexual violence I experienced, especially when I said it was my fault because I had been walking home at 1am from a party. My #boyfriend had been too drunk to walk with me. #shame #rape #therapy

When potential clients use therapist Facebook groups instead of booking in with a therapist! Gaaaah! Stop it! #therapy #facebookgroups #clients #dilemmas #thetapistslife #therapywork

Awesome book!

Making shoppers pay for returns while online shopping isn't right. The company isn't paying rent for a shop with fixtures and fittings, so don't pass it on to the customer. 😑 #shopping #onlineretailers #customersatisfaction #returningclothes #customerisright

I feel desperate. My children continue to be neglected by their father on fortnightly visits. He lacks the ability to parent. When they return, they are disregulated and exhausted. They don't sleep or eat properly. SS has tried to intervene with no positive results.

My kids' school doesn't answer the phone anymore! They just leave it to ring out......! #blocking #notcommunicating #badschool

Dafuq did I just read? ‘Chemical castration’ of sex offenders being rolled out across 20 prisons?? The ‘chemicals’ are SSRIs and Androgen blockers? This will not work, has never worked, and misses several vital points: 1. Plenty of abusers and offenders already take SSRIs and they didn’t affect their offending whatsoever 2. Sex offences are NOT a crime of desire, libido or passion, they are a crime of violence and power - so chemical castration will likely fail anyway as it doesn’t address power or violence

Retailers charging for returns now or no threshold amount for shipping and NOT making an announcement? I can shop somewhere else. My money. My choice. #OnlineShopping #fashion #highstreetstores #money

Remember when the Met Police Commissioner Cressida Dick said the police only had an "occasionally bad un" after Wayne Cousins kidnapped and brutally murdered Sarah Everard and then a damming report came out highlighting the deep misogyny in her force, as well as a group of officers making fun of paedophilia, domestic abuse and more. The report concluded a very different picture of what Dick said. They said it was more than "a few bad apples" She had to resign. It reminds me of Jacky Tiotto, trying to silence anyone who tries to highlight that perpetrators could possibly be within public bodies like CAFCASS, and the way she is so quick to bully, threaten and deny that perpetrators live among us all in every profession. Just as Dick should have been protecting society from perpetrators and denied it was a problem, belittling it, Jacky Tiotto has done the very same thing in a letter addressed to Dr Jessica Taylor. Jacky Tiotto is supposed to be protecting the public from perpetrators, in particular children. How can she do that if she is a perpetrator denier? Jacky Tiotto should also resign! I'm afraid she is not fit to run CAFCASS due to her attitude of victim blaming, silencing victims and those who speak the truth. Protection of children can never be accomplished with that mentality at the top. Resign Jacky, no child or family is safe with you at the top. nbcnews.com/news/world/londo…

Yes. I’ll start. Prince Andrew, Russell Brand, Jimmy Savile, Harvey Weinstein, Robert Kelly, Sean Combs, Keith Raniere, Andrew Tate, Tristan Tate, Ghislaine Maxwell.. Keep it real Piers and stop obsessing and fixating on Harry and Meghan.

AT PRESENT IM EXPERIENCING AN AFGO !!! “What the hell is that?” you ask. Well, once when I told my therapist about a trigger id had and I that I felt stuck, highly anxious,and helpless. She replied “AHA!! You’re having an AFGO” I also said “What the hell is that?” She replied “ANOTHER FUCKING GROWTH OPPORTUNITY” Now I DIDN’T want one of those-I just wanted a peaceful, even joyful, glide into deeper recovery - as I’m sure all of you do too. However it did help to reframe things for me. I’ll explain- If we have pain in a physical, gradually healing, deep wound our specialist will explain it’s not unusual for deep wounds to need ongoing attention as healing takes place. Our wounds are no different. Triggers, flashbacks, etc although effing unpleasant and scary are indicators that healing is progressing but some ongoing attention is needed. Healing/recovery is ongoing. Trauma creates deep wounds within us. Layers of needed attention will continue to arise at times. IT DOESN’T MEAN WE’RE FAILING it means it’s an AFGO - a time to attend to another area/layer of suffering so as to continue to heal. YES - IT SUCKS!! and it’s often frightening-but necessary. My recent experience of an AFGO left me terrified and hopeless BUT to my deep gratitude and utter surprise it has/and is continuing to lead me into working on areas that need attention and ongoing healing is taking place. I’m not through it fully yet BUT reframing it as an AFGO rather than a set back or a failure gives me encouragement and hope. CAROLYN SPRING - endured horrific childhood trauma and is now a dedicated advocate, blogger and teacher on the process of recovery. I recommend this read but all her blogs are informative and inspire hope carolynspring.com/blog/why-t…

Virginia Giuffre, who accused Prince Andrew and Jeffrey Epstein of sexual abuse, has died by suicide aged 41. Her family said the “toll of abuse… became unbearable”. There is no limit to the toll abuse takes. This is devastating. ➡️ bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cql6…