I've worked with
@blackmeatmarket multiple times, and my boyfriend has known him for three years. Between us, we've never known him to be anything but professional, respectful, reliable, and genuinely kind. Those qualities are unfortunately rare enough in this industry that they're worth defending.
If someone intentionally ignores an agreed-upon boundary during a shoot, that's wrong. Full stop.
But there's a huge difference between an intentional violation and an accidental loss of control, and none of us can know someone's intent simply because the outcome wasn't what was planned.
As a woman, I'm honestly tired of seeing people act like men have complete control over everything their bodies do. I've watched men get mocked because they couldn't stay hard. I've watched them get embarrassed for finishing too early. We expect them to perform on command under pressure and then shame them when biology doesn't cooperate. That's not empathy—that's a double standard.
What concerns me most is how quickly people are willing to publicly accuse someone of sexual assault before intent has been established. Those words aren't just opinions—they can permanently damage a person's career, reputation, relationships, and mental health. Once that accusation is made publicly, it can follow someone forever, even if it later turns out to be false or unsupported.
Accountability requires evidence. Public accusations that someone intentionally committed sexual assault require even more. We should demand evidence before concluding that an embarrassing mistake was an intentional violation.
